What Makes You Tick

When Heavenletters came along, I was doing career counseling, teaching people job search strategies, helping people find worthy work.

I never took courses in this subject. It just was always something I was interested in, quite in contrast to poetry and stories.

Now, I never liked career and psychological tests. They took way too long to take, some took days, and then the results were not always helpful. They tend to tell you to become more of something you’re not, and less of something you are. In other words, change yourself. And, besides, these tests cost a small fortune.

I came across a book that was magically helpful with revealing what makes us tick — Managing with Style by Rowe and Mason. It’s quite a technical book, written for a doctoral thesis, but its ideas were wonderful, and I loved that book. If it had been written to be a popular rather than academic, I am sure it would have become a best seller.

Well, this book I liked had a test I liked. It was short and painless. It took about ten minutes to take, two minutes to do the math, and ten minutes to go over the results with the client, and it was free. And this test made us happy no matter what the results were. It was a chart of ourselves. It helped us know ourselves, and it didn’t try to make ourselves into something else.

So this test was on operating styles. It gave four operating styles.

Before I tell you what these four styles are, let me say, as the book did say, that we are all, everyone of us, all of the styles. And they are all are good, and all are needed in the world. One style isn’t better than another. For most of us, we have one or more styles that we are comfortable with. And that’s what the test is about – what we are most comfortable with. This test of operating styles, like any test, of course, does not tell the whole story. We are much more than our operating style or styles.

Yet this test does give us a vocabulary, and it is amazingly helpful in pointing out what some of our real needs are.

Also, let me emphasize that this is not a test of ability. Someone could be a whiz in computer skills, but that doesn’t mean it’s their love.

There were two predominantly left brain styles, and two predominantly right brain styles.

Left brain is more mind, intellect, logic. Right brain is more heart, intuition, creativity.

The two left brain styles are named Directive and Analytical. The two right brain styles are named Conceptual and Behavioral.

A quick run-down of the two left brain styles:

Directive people look for speed and efficiency. They like rules, procedures, and structure. They are action-oriented and work fast. They appear very certain and can be seen as bossy. Interestingly, when under stress, most of us tend to become directive. Directive people can thrive in bureaucratic environments.

Analytical people love to work with details. They are detail-oriented, not action-oriented. They need time to dig in and be thorough. They do not work fast because accuracy and exactness are more important to them. Technical environments naturally suit them.

A quick-run down of the two predominantly right brain styles:

Conceptual people are big big thinkers. They are idea-oriented. They see the wholeness. They are future-oriented. They need freedom and independence so that they can do all they can do. From the outside, to those who do not understand, conceptual people may look like dreamers. Many conceptual people are visionaries. Einstein was conceptual.

Behavioral people are all about feelings. Everyone loves harmony. A behavioral person has to have harmony in order to function. They want everyone to be happy. If someone two desks away is unhappy, a behavioral person can’t be happy. Behavioral people need to know they are appreciated. Like directives, they like to move fast.

We all need appreciation, but behavioral people really need it. Like directives, behavioral people are now-oriented. Behavioral people can be too sensitive. And because they don’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings, they can be wishy-washy.

Do you know people who seem to be predominantly one or more of these styles? And what about you?

I broke the bank when it came to right brain behavioral.

I like to work fast, and I like things done NOW. Always there seems to be an immediacy for me. For instance, I have to answer emails right away while I still have the zip. Details are not important to me. Record-keeping is not. Feelings are what matter to me.

Ambiguity is hard for me. Confusion is hard for me. You might think I’d be used to confusion by now, but it doesn’t work that way. The sort of thing I mean is when someone says and acts very nicely, but I feel something else – this is most uncomfortable. I need to know clearly what something is. I need things spelled out.

Although seeking to know ourselves through this test cannot compare to knowing ourselves as God would have us know ourselves, this test really and truly made a difference for a lot of people, including myself. We can say with a sigh, “Ah, this is how I am,� and feel validated.

There is another delightful book I like that talks about different operating styles from an entirely different angle. This other view is also vibrant and non-standard, and I hope to tell you about it in another blog entry soon.

Posted by Gloria on December 21st, 2007 under these topics
Personal Development, Godwriting Journal

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8 Replies

Reply from Jack van Raders on December 21, 2007

Dearest Gloria,

Yes I think I am right brain too I want everything done Now or preferably Yesterday. Used to be very judgmental Like and dislike at first meeting seldom wrong. Funny thing is I always got on better with Ladies then gents,probably because they are better looking. very sure of myself I am not always right but never wrong. Like wine I mellow when I grow older, now I am a pussycat. I work from my feeling of LOVE, as GOD suggested years ago. I am getting better at it as time goes by I even tolerate stupidity to a certain extend. At least I do not get angry any more but try to ignore it. Any way enough of me. you might start thinking that I am Perfect not quit yet dear. Love you Lots Blessings Jack

Reply from Gloria on December 21, 2007

To me you will always be perfect, Jack.

Reply from Jo on December 21, 2007

As much as I loved this blog entry and it’s fascinating subject matter, its first three sentences were pivotal for me. I have never taken counseling courses, either, but am drawn to my energy/alternative counseling work like a moth to flame. I sometimes feel that I have no credentials to do this work (this would be ego poking me with its sharp, pointy finger) and wonder if I could get into trouble for practicing without some sort of official verification. But your sharing in those first three sentences has calmed those misgivings. I knew there was yet more to be discovered that I loved about you, Gloria Divine! And I disagree - career counseling is directly related to your love of stories. Think of all the new life stories you’ve helped people write.
Please don’t stop sharing your story.
All Love and Light,
Jo

Reply from Gloria on December 21, 2007

Dear Jo, I never liked doing things the way “everyone else” did. It really wasn’t that I was simply contrary. II never liked just following the norm. Even if it were super wonderful, I didn’t want to be a robot. I didn’t know back then but I do know now that there was some inner guidance going on. At the time, I just knew what felt right to me.

My understanding is that it really is all a matter of consciousness. Someone in your presence can only be uplifted and move forward, dear one. I daresay that training doesn’t have all that much to do with it.

That must be so because look at all the schoolteachers who probably had more or less the same training, and yet there are so many good ways and styles of teaching.

Also, when you do the norm, what’s considered great today may be out tomorrow.

The next book I will tell you about is a gold mine, Jo. You may already be familiar with it. But I’m going to make you wait for the name of the book until the blog entry is up!

Reply from Jacqueline on December 21, 2007

It could have been a fuse.

Reply from Gloria on December 21, 2007

Jacqueline, I don’t know what you mean. What are you referring to, please?

Reply from Jack van Raders on December 22, 2007

Dear Jo,

Do what ever feels good to you. Your counseling is probably much better than certified counselors. Your Love shines through your letters I have read on this Page over time. Counseling with Love is so infinite better than out of a book. Love you and never underestimate yourself. Jack

Reply from Jo on December 24, 2007

Bless you Jack and Gloria for your kind words.
A Very Merry Christmas full of Love and Light to You and to All!
XO
Jo

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