“Dear God,   I am just so concerned about my two eldest children - they are in their 30’s and not married and I fear that their dysfunctional relationship with their domineering father who died almost 18 years ago has affected them, and also I was emotionally unavailable in this rigid, unhappy marriage - does Jim, their father, understand it all now?  Does he realise the pain and dysfunction of it all?  I pray for them all so much and just want them to be functioning in a healthy, happy way.  I fear that they received no example of a loving well adjusted family.    Dear God help me to guide them and to be a wise loving mother and person in my life.     Your loving daughter,   Catherine

God to Catherine:

My beloved daughter, are you really responsible for everything? Are you responsible for your former husband’s death? Are you responsible for your children’s lives?

It is too easy to hold yourself responsible, and it is egotistic.

You were not the controller of your children then, and you are not the controller now.

You do not always know best. It is fine for your grown children to be who they are. It is not even for you to guide them. It is for you to free them, and to free yourself from accumulation of the past.

Your heart is all for your children. Now you, as their mother, will free them in your heart from your ideas and convictions of what their lives should be. How can you be sure it’s better for your children to marry than to not? Is it always success to marry, and failure to not? Life has taught you better, My beloved. Let go of old ideas. Do not pepper your children with your seasoning.

Everyone has his own life to live as they live it. You are not the prescriber of anyone’s life. And you are not to be the assessor of it. Be the blesser of it. Bless your children to Me. I am, after, their Father, and My love encompasses a Great Territory. Is it not a good thing to release your beautiful children to Me? Can you put them in better Hands? Envision yourself taking each of your children by the hand and walking them up to Me, leaving them with Me, and then you walk away. This will be a great easing for you, Catherine. To give your children to Me is not giving them away. It is not giving them up. It is giving up your sense of responsibility for them. It is freeing them to themselves. It is not breaking a bond, but it is undoing a knot.

When you release your children on the deep levels I speak of, you may find that they open up more to you and to themselves, simply because you set them free.

All mothers have to release their children from every thread of attachment. Mothers must get their hands off and their hearts attuned in a different direction. Your work with raising your children is over. I speak of the older ones, not your youngest. I know this is hard what I tell you, and this is not what you want to hear, but this is what you must know and I must tell you. Release, release.

Jim understands everything now far better than you. It is you who doesn’t understand. You have not yet understood enough to let go of guilt. This is now the time to set yourself free from the past. You cannot undo it. You have investigated it enough. Wrap it up and put it away now. You have other things to do and gold to mine within yourself.

So now we come to you, beautiful you. Accept your beauty. Accept your goodness. Accent your love, and love yourself. Love yourself, and everything is taken care of. Love yourself as I do love you. What is the keynote of My love? It is acceptance. I have always held you deep in My heart. My attention was on you and your beautiful heart. I did not attend to what you attended to. I didn’t bother with the crevices and faults you seemed to major in. No, My heart full of love filled yours, and yet you were looking somewhere else.

And now you look squarely at Me, and now you see the lovelight of your eyes reflected in Mine. Or is it Mine in yours? Oh, what is the difference. We love, Catherine, you and I. We love. We are love, One indivisible love made for the sharing of Ourselves with Our One Self. You are My beloved Catherine, and I am God, and We are One.