Finally I Was Born

The Rose Market, known as the Store, was a main character in all our lives, sort of like the first wife in China, or the other woman in America, but an other woman who had risen to preeminence and was above all.

I don’t know that it was love, but the store’s needs always came before everyone else’s needs, before my mother, my father, before all of us, before health, before my birth. The store came before everything. It was always given great deference. It was always bowed down to. In return, the store fed us. We literally did get our food from the store. There were the rich days, and there were the poor days, but the store always fed us.

All the days that my mother carried me, she worked in the store eighteen-hour days. She lugged boxes. She stood on her feet.

In those days, grocery stores were not super markets. My parents waited on each customer. There was a stick with mechanical prongs at the end that my mother used to stretch up to the top shelves to bring down a can of Campbell soup or a round box of Quaker Oats. As a customer, you had to know what you wanted, and the service you got was always with a smile.

One of my mother’s prides was that no one knew she was pregnant, except my father, of course. None of my sisters and brothers knew. None of the customers in the store knew. My mother worked so hard she didn’t gain weight, and no one could tell.

This is the story of my birth as my mother would tell it:

“Because Saturday was the biggest day of the week, I had hoped that I would be able to wait for you to be born until Saturday was over. Saturday was the biggest day of the week in the store, but, to my disappointment, at 10 a.m., I couldn’t wait any longer and had to leave the store and go home to give birth to you. You came so fast you got here before the doctor. You were so eager to be born you almost came in the hallway. You were no bigger than a teaspoon and weighed only two pounds. You were so small, it was a wonder that you lived. And you were so cute, everyone wanted to hold you, but so you could get some rest and grow, they had to leave you alone.”

This following part, my sister Sylvia who was seventeen years older than I, would tell:

“Because giving birth was a deep dark secret back then, Sid and Eleanor were locked out of the house. They banged on the door and yelled to be let in. At some point, they were let in. Sid was surprised to find you there. Eleanor was stunned. How had a baby gotten into their house?

My brother Sid who was seven at the time, would tell me later:

“Your face was round and red like a tomato.”

My Tante Lena, my mother’s sister who had no children, told this part:

“Five-year old Eleanor was so jealous that the first chance she got, she grabbed you and threw you into the fireplace — but you were so wrapped up in blankets that you didn’t get hurt. You didn’t even wake up.”

It all sounds preposterous, doesn’t it?

I was the only one of my mother’s five children that she did not nurse. When I was two weeks’ old she want back to work, and then there was a sequence of three women who took care of me until I was seven, and then there was none.

Posted by Gloria on March 26th, 2008 under these topics
Family Stories, Purely Personal, Godwriting Journal

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9 Replies

Reply from Jo on March 26, 2008

Oh my goodness, Gloria, 2 Pounds! It’s almost as if your were complying with the “big secret”! It’s a good thing your personality is so big and bright. I completely understand and enjoy Eleanor’s perplexity: How did a baby get into our house? And as a fellow “tomato face” the detail Sid shared is adorable.

Reply from Gloria on March 26, 2008

Jo, you understand, we don’t know I weighed only two pounds. I may have, in actuality, been bigger than a teaspoon. Would a two-pound baby survive at home? I think we can believe I wasn’t big as babies go, but who knows really what I did weigh. My bet is on five pounds. I think my mother’s babies generally ran nine pounds, so, of course, to my mother, I might have looked like a preemie.

Well, dear Jo, Eleanor had more than perplexity at my birth. That might not have been the only time she threw me in the fireplace!

Reply from mia on March 27, 2008

Gosh!

You sure caused some problems! lol

Poor little you.

Were you eventually accepted by your sister?

Love mia xx

Reply from Charles Fines on March 27, 2008

Gloria, that your mother didn’t nurse you strikes me as the saddest note in your family story so far.

Last night on the PBS show Great Performances I watched Peter and the Wolf. It was a wordless animated feature done with puppets that get moved slightly for each single frame that is shot. Was only perhaps fifteen minutes long but it took five years to make. Exceptionally well done.

The setting was Russia and was a combination of what I would guess was both the 1880’s and the 1980’s. Grim poverty with a haunting mixture of extreme sadness and courage.

I would certainly recommend this feature to anyone with the opportunity to watch it but I mention it here because the whole time I watched it I found myself thinking of your parents.

Reply from Gloria on March 27, 2008

Charles, what a powerful comment you make. Amazing the connection you made.

Mia, one story will relate to a statement you made! You could not possibly have known!

Both of your comments encourage me to keep on with these family stories. In fact, I feel some entries coming on!

God bless you both.

With love,

Gloria

Reply from One on March 27, 2008

I’m so happy to hear that you were not breast fed. I’ll tell you why just now.

The contemporary birthing process is unnatural. I wonder about all the healing children have to go through to recover from the vaccinations, premature separation of the placenta, circumcision and bright cold fluorescent lights. To add to all of this, the little one has to sometimes put up with baby formula rather than mother’s milk.

Now when I read that you were not breast fed and are now who you are today…well, it clearly shows that all conditions and circumstances can be overcome without exception. This story is so inspiring.

I wonder if we could ever get a picture of that tomatoe face posted on this blog.

Reply from Gloria on March 27, 2008

Oh, Senor One, I would not withhold anything from you. Alas, there are no photos of that tomato face. Maybe a picture of any baby would do — the red crying face almost filled with the wide-open mouth!

Reply from Dianita on April 1, 2008

Glorita,

Who would think with no female role models you would become such a feminine beauty, and model of feminine divinity! Love, Me

Reply from Gloria on April 1, 2008

You must wear golden lenses, beloved Dianita.

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