My understanding. It has to do with being genuine. Being genuine has to do with one’s Dharma, or in other words, being true to oneself. If you feel angry, feel angry. If there is resentment, feel resentment.

How can we fully experience if we pretend it is not so and try to be what we are not.

This may be why one may find a true villain more interesting than a person trying to fit into some kind of conventional mold.

Being true to one’s nature is the same as letting go. It is not a careless attitude. It is a practice that takes the greatest care.

I can only discover who I am by being who I am right now.

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One Love

I have had the experience of being with someone or a group who are so nice. They’re so nice, and then I feel guilty because I find a strain with them and don’t care to spend time with them. But they’re so nice. As Jochen says, there may well be something going on under the surface.

Ambiguity is very hard for me. I’d rather know exactly what someone means than to be wondering.

I have a very dear wise friend who told me: “Go by your feelings. It’s enough that you’re not comfortable. You don’t have to know more about it than that.”

There’s another scenario. Sometimes we just outgrow where we used to be. We’re somewhere else now.

It’s a tiny example, but I used to love to go to yard sales and resale shops. Now I find I don’t want to go to them at all.

Anyway, Paula, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, and you don’t have to give it a second thought. We don’t have to be anywhere we don’t want to.

We learn it from our parents, cultural, media, movies, radio, and novels etc. To break out of this will be one of the greatest factors leading toward inner peace which will lead to World Peace which will lead to higher Imaginings undreamed of at this moment.

Sadly, we have so few role models that “we” have to become the change we’d like to see in others.

We are not so nearly self aware as we think we are. Being ruled by our unconscious reactions proves this and is the cause of the smallest little bickerings to the most large scaled of wars.

Yet we have compassion on ourselves as we would a baby learning to walk, a kitten or puppy learning their way in their new bodies. If we knew better we would do better.

What if we know better and still don’t do better? That’s the dilemma, of being more influenced by our unconscious reactions and less by our conscious responding.

The signals that we’d prefer not to “be” a certain way even as we continue “be”ing in that way, is the signal and transition to an raising awareness.

Admitting that, is part of the process, that helps us realize that and move ahead. To not admit it, is either denial, ignorance or arrogance. Admittance is being aware and humble. That is, teachable to newer ideas.

It’s called evolving.

My current recourse in transitioning out of hard feelings is this. I practice becoming a Master Blesser. I bless those situations I don’t care for.

It’s an art and a practice. When frustrated, resentful etc. if we can, ask ourselves, “What is the gift and blessing in this experience, if I open myself to it?”

When I get uPset as I did when my last storm window (out of four) which I had sanded, primed and painted would not hook right and required several trips to the hardware store to realign. Each time it presented a problem (it was the last window!) I really got steamed. My best recourse was to leave the window situation, and go in the house for awhile and do something else.

It really helped. Later, after surfing on the computer a bit I could go back and do it in a better frame of mind. I realized if the window could talk it would say this.

“I’m broken and need to be fixed, I need your help to hang and work properly. Not hanging properly is how I can talk to you and tell you that I’m hurting. When I’m fixed I will be able to do my job, but first I need your help.”

Of course this is a blessing, it certainly beats hanging it only to have it fall off and break at a later time creating even more work.

Sometimes we just need to go do something else, see the humor in it and bless it. Heck, I bless things even after I’ve said a few colourful worlds about it. Blessing even after I’ve blown off some steam still brings that good energy that I desire to bring to the situation. Even if it’s after the fact.

So yes, even after we have cursed or whatever we’ve done at a particular situation, let us move forward in blessing as quick as we can. That’s the best we can do at the moment. In doing so, we allow and open the pathways to do even better in keeping our peace of mind.

It’s the challenge of transitioning out of the old way of being to a new way of being that brings even more inner peace and joy.

It’s a challenge and opportUnity.

We may have our uPs and downs around it, but the compassion we give ourselves and others, eases the frustration amidst the challenge. Blessing as best we can furthers the good energy.

Beloved Gloria, I would have you consider that when you say “I love bleedings hearts and roses and lilacs more than I love the gardeners.” Is that what you really desire is to say “I love the gardeners just as much”.

It’s hard of course, wait, I don’t care for that word hard here, it’s a challenge and an opportUNITY to see more of the divine in the gardeners,– even when it’s not apparent, and in doing so ironically, will (hopefully) make their divinity more apparent.

I agree Gloria it’s a big lesson for all of us to learn. For me, sharing how to best flow through these situations as we process and progress our unconscious (less beneficial) feelings to more conscious beneficial feelings is that, eventually, our unconscious feelings will transform to beneficial ones and become conscious and natural.

Paula, the bickering person in the one group could be open and honest and even perhaps a little funny, thus not a problem, whereas in the other group there could be some falseness involved. Whatever we take a little less seriously gets that much more manageable. A little less, and again next month a little less and….. That has been my recent experience in the field of getting less resentful and more loving: piecemeal.