Alice Walker

Book TV interviewed Alice Walker in depth at her home in Berkley, California this past weekend. Alice Walker, of course, is author of over twenty-five books, including the very famous The Color Purple. She is an activist and humanist as well. She loves the world, the whole miracle of it, and sees God in everything and everyone.

After listening and watching Alice Walker on this in-depth interview show, I came back to the question I’ve wondered about before: What is the mystery that makes someone the person they come to be, especially when, based on their childhood, it’s probably the last thing that anyone could ever have predicted.

Alice came from a sharecropper’s family of eight children. Alice was the youngest. The life sharecroppers led was really untenable. Her family was at the mercy of the person whose farm they took care of. They had no home but what hovel was given to them. Her father, who worked unconscionably long hours, once asked for a raise from $10.00 a month to $12.00. The lady who owned the land made it outrageously clear that she would never pay him a cent more, and she called him names and made sure he had no shred of dignity left, and life was such that Alice’s father had no choice but to continue to work for this woman.

To be a sharecropper was the lowest rung in the ladder. Alice was the great granddaughter of a slave. Her parents had no education — truly never had a chance for it. Alice’s mother worked as a farmhand and cleaned houses.

YET from that life, their talented youngest child, Alice Walker, became educated, received a Pulitzer Prize for her writing, graced the world and lives a life of simple dignity. I hoped that her hard-working parents got to see the day their youngest daughter received the Pulitzer Prize, but I’ll tell you more about that in a minute.

What makes a person with virtually no chance at all come to lead a spectacular life and contribute so much to the world? Why Alice? What were the odds of her becoming educated at all?

From Google, I found that Alice’s mother, Minnie Tallulah Grant Walker, somehow knew how important education was for her youngest daughter. She enrolled Alice in the first grade when Alice was four, and excused her from chores so that she could have time for reading and schoolwork. What determination her mother must have had, and what a huge thing that was to make it possible for her daughter to have an education.

Alice’s mother also saved what money she could in the little town in Georgia they lived in, and bought several gifts that had a great impact upon Alice’s life — a sewing machine that enabled Alice to make her own clothes, a suitcase that gave her promise of and permission to travel — and a typewriter! On some level, did Alice’s mother know what her youngest daughter’s future was to be?

How valued education must have been then! Alice and her mother knew without doubt that education was a blessing. What a contrast to today when children, by law, must go to school and, consequently, education often is not valued.

Not only did Alice get the chance to have an education, she was Valedictorian of her high school class and received a scholarship to Spellman College. After two years there, she transferred to Sarah Lawrence College.

A sad thing is that Alice’s father didn’t want Alice to become educated. He feared it would separate Alice from her family. His fear came true. He and Alice did become estranged.

I wonder if they became estranged, not because Alice’s education but because of his fear. If Alice’s father had been proud of her becoming educated instead of fearful, what  difference might that have made.

Do any of us know what to make of our childhoods and our family constellations?

Posted by Gloria on May 28th, 2008 under these topics
Miracles, Education, Godwriting Journal

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16 Replies

Reply from Jo on May 28, 2008

Gloria, I truly love questions like this and have been fascinated by famly’s make-up and dynamics for as far back as I can remember. The question that pops up for me is: why are we so amazed when someone from Alice’s “circumstances” becomes a brilliant Spiritual communicator? We all come with the same amazing potential deep inside of us no matter what family we land in. Hhhhmmmmmmmm…I have to let this marinate before I write more.

Reply from Gloria on May 28, 2008

Great question, Jo. Why aren’t I surprised when someone with every opportunity actually makes it! Why aren’t I surprised when someone from a childhood with little opportunity DOESN’T make it?

Children from really difficult background who make it are called resilient children. To some degree, we are all that. I took a course in Resilient Children once. According to the course, each such child had someone in their corner, someone who believed in them and who maybe said one thing that spurred them on.

I remember with Maya Angelou, it was her mother who would say to Maya: “Someday you are really going to be somebody.”

Now, of course, there are plenty of resilient children who grow up and are not famous etc. and yet they “succeeded” and are inspiring those around them.

You know I loved the movie The Cider House Rules. The doctor who headed the orphanage would say good night to the boys this way: “Good night, Kings of New England, Princes of Maine.”

I think books play a great role in uplifting many of us.

Reply from Jochen Lehner on May 28, 2008

Gloria, I think that in your comment you answer all the questions you asked in your entry.

Who is “someone with every opportunity”? What is a “really difficult background”? What makes opportunity, what makes difficulty? It all depends on whether there is “someone in their corner” or not.

In Alice Walker’s case, it seems obvious that she was loved and valued. And that’s all there is to it. When you are brought up to love and respect yourself, you are going to “make it”. Famous or not, prosperous or not, you will be living a life you love living. And it will show.

Reply from Pam (fortheloveofGodde) on May 28, 2008

I have an amazing friend with whom me and my business partner are working to bring some wonderful programs to our city, state, world. He’s the pastor of a small church with a very small congregation. But that’s not the story. He, too, is from a small town in Mississippi, and grew up as a sharecropper. He doesn’t have a great education (no time for school when you have to pick crops and cotton). He doesn’t have great verbal communication skills. What he does have is a brilliant mind, a dedication to listening to and following spirit, and is a true visionary. To top it all off, he has a great sense of humor (and so does his wife … we are, in her terms, “sisterellas”). Who knows why Godde put us together, but I am glad that it happened.

In my own family, both my parents grew up in incredibly poor circumstances, the children of alcoholic and abusive dads and ineffective but loving mothers. My dad, one of 8 children, lived in 20+ states. The whole family lived in a small trailer that they pulled from state to state while his dad did odd jobs here and there. Only when his mother became very ill did they actually settle in one state.

My mom, the oldest of five siblings, remembers all too well having to go from bar to bar looking for her dad. And of all the yucky living arrangements, including living in a one-bedroom apartment OVER a bar. She tells of how when they went up north, they always took the back roads so that Grandpa could stop at every bar on the way. I remember staying with them in a cabin one winter that was heated only by one wood-burning fireplace and had no running water. They filled milk cans with water for drinking and had one in the bathroom so they could flush the toilet once a day. I had always thought this was just a vacation cabin until recently when my mother told me that this was their home at the time.

I am so blessed that both my parents (this was actually my stepdad as my mother was widowed at the age of 21 with two small children, me and my brother) were determined to not go down that same path. We had everything they did not. We were by no means rich, more like low middle-class. We grew up in a HOME with two parents who LIKED being parents!

And, Gloria, yes, it was BOOKS. My mom was a voracious reader and we had a whole wall of books! A wonderful variety of books of all kinds for all ages.

Wow … well … thank you for this blog. It was soooo inspiring and brought on a lot of memories and reminders of all that I have to be grateful for. YOU are at the top of that list every day!!

Reply from Gloria on May 29, 2008

Pam, what a magnificent story you tell and tell so well.

I would love to know about some of the books that influenced you as a child.

Pam, it is God Who is at the top of your list. That is very clear!

Reply from Gloria on May 29, 2008

Jochen, you make me think of so many things to say. At first I accepted wholeheartedly what you say, and then, this morning, I’m not as certain. Maybe I just seem to take “the other side.”

I’ll tell you the sort of thing I’m thinking of. Someone in the U.S., for instance, may be loved tremendously, but they have all kinds of problems supposedly because they were toilet-trained too early or something like that.

And then someone who grew up under horrendous conditions, really untenable conditions, and they grow beyond it. It’s a wonder to me that those in great situations can get stuck, and those who come from really unhappy circumstances can move on. Both are hard for me to understand. I am in awe of those who rise from dire circumstances.

Will you tell me more of what you think, dear Jochen?

Reply from Jochen Lehner on May 29, 2008

I will, dearest Gloria. Unfortunately, I will not be able to do it until I’m back from Portugal (June 11). It’s a very interesting topic.

I agree with what you say, of course. We can never add up factors and predict outcomes. But I think we all observe tendencies around us, perhaps each of us different ones. As long as no one has to be right or wrong, it’s wonderful and fun to share our observations.

Much love to all of you,
Jochen

Reply from Pam (fortheloveofGodde) on May 29, 2008

I look forward to Jochen’s response when he returns as well. I also don’t understand how children from the same family, same upbringing and circumstances, can be so different. I think what I liked most about her book, The Color Purple, is that it was more about relationships and one woman’s life than about race or whatever. It’s the same thing I like so well about Amy Tan’s books. Even though it’s about a different culture, the heart and soul of her books is the relationships. (I particularly loved Joy Luck Club and The Bonesetter’s Daughter.)

You asked earlier what books influenced me growing up. SO MANY … while thinking about this, I had another very fond memory of sitting on a stool by my great-great-grandmother’s rocking chair and reading the Psalms to her. I remember being praised for being able to read the big words. Of course, this made me nostalgic and grateful for having so many “old ones” in my life–besides my great-great-greatgrandmother, I had two sets of great-grandparents and grandparents, great-great aunts and others. We’re a long-lived bunch, and many had babies early. We’ve always been a 5-generation family!

Anyway, if you get this far (LOL), as a young child, I read Grimm’s Fairy Tales (loved them even though they were very scary), Aesop’s Fables, and we had a couple of books with stories about the Greek Gods and Goddesses.

I also loved any story that had a girl who was brave and adventurous. LOVED “Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm,” “The Little Princess,” “The Hidden Garden,” all of the Nancy Drew books.

Also read all of the Mark Twain books and stories, and to satisfy my taste for the macabre, read all the Edgar Allen Poe stories as well. Read all of the H.G. Wells books, too. THEN found more modern (well, at the time) Sci-Fi books (and remain hooked on any of the Star Trek shows that come on TV).

Oh yes, mom also had quite a collection of metaphysical books and books about ETs, so read a lot of that as well.

She was a member of the Book of the Month club and Reader’s Digest Condensed books, so always read those as well.

Read a lot … it was a great escape and still is. I could travel the world and explore universes without leaving home.

Of course, we didn’t have a whole lot of choice–NO CABLE TV!! LOL

Reply from Pam (fortheloveofGodde) on May 29, 2008

OH YES, just one more comment. Libraries and librarians are a reader’s best friend! I love how our small-town libraries are all linked to a network of all the libraries in West Michigan, so even if they don’t have a book in that library, it’s easy to order it in.

I’m very good at Trivial Pursuit … bet you are too!

Reply from Jo on May 29, 2008

Pam I love what you say aout the relationships in the books you mention. Yes, these wonderful books from different cultures are about how much we are the same rather than how we differ. Your sentence, “I also don’t understand how children from the same family, same upbringing and circumstances, can be so different” is something that I am fascinated by and I believe it is key to truly understanding each other and honoring our “Oneness”. Firstly, I think we don’t easily grasp or appreciate the innate, inborn uniqueness we each show up with. We are all, every single one of us humans, honest to goodness, one-of-a-kind Beings, like snowflakes. Then you have to factor in personal chemistry between parent and child and between siblings. Each parent and child “pairing” has it’s own unique chemistry. I had a completely different relationship with each of my parents than my brothers did. I had a completely different relationship with each of my own three sons and they each had completely unique relationships with my husband. Pondering this always makes me appreciate how well we humans get along and can relate in spite of our differences! Every single one of us has a truly one-of-a-kind experience/relationship with life here on Earth. No two of us will experience or perceive events that occur in the same way. Isn’t it amazing and awe-inspiring that we are all so connected via the Divine web in spite of this? That our “Oneness” both honors and makes short work of of our differences?! Wow, I think the Godwriting “keyboard” took over, once again!

Reply from Pam (fortheloveofGodde) on May 31, 2008

Jo, excellent points. Yes, no matter what the family circumstances are, whether good or bad, emotionally distant or close, the “pairings” (great way to say it) are unique. Yes, it is amazing and awe-inspiring that we can even comprehend “Oneness”! But then, it is fun to honor each other’s differences when we realize we are one.

BTW, LOVE your Godwriting keyboard!!

Reply from One on May 31, 2008

Rising above the circumstances or the impressions made on the mind brings us closer to the understanding that ANYTHING is possible. Being wealthy is just as big an obstacle as being poor. Those who “make it” in life are closer to the “anything is possible” understanding.

Reply from Gloria on June 1, 2008

You are so right, Senor.

Here’s what I still wonder:

What makes one person, whether rich or poor etc. rise above and another not?

The person may not consciously believe that anything is possible, and yet they get to be where they are.

According to the class I took on Resilient Children, there was someone who had belief in them or simply made a positive remark that remark somehow stuck in the child’s psyche. I also imagine the positivity could come from a book as well.

Can it be that one person is destined and another not? I believe God has said we choose our destiny.

I seem to love pondering over this.

Reply from One on June 1, 2008

It’s an awesome thing to contemplate!
The dynamics of this question is as rich and interesting as life itself. One may explore destiny, karma, circumstances created as a result of these two, chance or Divine intervention.

I’d love to hear what God says!

Reply from yurtdisi egitim fuari on October 17, 2008

Why this web site do not have other languages support?

Reply from Gloria on October 17, 2008

Dear Yurtdisi, what language would you like?

On our related site, you will find many translations. Volunteers do it all. http://www.heavenletters.org/spiritual-community-forums.html

Scroll way down.

Thank you, dear one, for asking.

How did you happen to find this blog?

Please write back!

With love and blessings,

Gloria

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